I’m probably in the top 2 nicest people you’ll ever meet and I’m not number two. For some people, they imagine that being extra nice is the best manner of approach. You have people begin sentences with;
Please don’t be offended oh, I just want to…
Wait a minute! Why are you instructing me to not be offended? What did you do? In fact, I’m already offended! What’s your problem?
Feigned niceness. Some of the niceties stem from a huge cultural indoctrination. People have been taught that being nice is a sign of respect reserved only for the elderly. Worse still, half the time, they don’t even mean it. How else can an individual say?
With all due respect sir, I think you’re one of the dumbest individuals I’ve come across in my twenty rainy seasons here on earth
Not nice. Some people have mastered the art of not giving anything away even at your worst.
Excuse me but did you unplug my phone at 5% charge to plug in yours that’s on 99%? What happened to home training?
Wait a minute! it’s not even your charger!
Worse still, I once had an examination to write and in my haste, I forgot to take a pen to the examination hall.
Gottfried: Mac, can you lend me a pen, I see you have two and I don’t have any!
Mac: What if one of them runs out midway into the paper, what would I use?
Gottfried: Well it hasn’t happened yet!
Mac: Nope
Too nice. My dad has a knack for giving things away to charity almost at the expense of us his children. I’ve lost quite the number of items of clothing through this initiative. Talking about you’ve been enjoying it for all these years and there are some children that have never had full cream powdered milk.
I once visited an inn and at midnight I woke up to the cold air on my skin. I knocked on the innkeeper’s door to ask for an item to keep me warm.
Gottfried: Hi there, I’m a bit cold, got anything I could use?
Inn keeper: There, you can have my wife!
Gottfried: Woah! Slow down cowboy, I want something inanimate that wouldn’t try to strangle me in my sleep thanks!
Inn keeper: (begrudgingly hands me a blanket)
I hear stories like this are common in the Netherlands. As bizarre as this sounds, remember that Lot from the good book was willing to hand over his virgin daughters to an angry mob in place of strangers he just met. I imagine dinner was hectic for everybody that night.
Ultimately, the key is to be able to strike the balance between being not approachable and being too nice. Don’t be so nice that people walk all over you. And don’t be so stern people literally scream and run at the sight of you. So the next time your mom shouts at you, serve her a cup of iced tea, smile, whisper in her ear…
watch your back
And walk away.
© Gottfried. All rights reserved.
I think I am too nice and when I get my feelings hurt it seems magnified.
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Everyone and their struggles 😅
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Thank you so much for the follow! You have a very interesting blog!!! Best Wishes!
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The pleasure is all mine, thanks for returning the favour. ❤
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Called by to leave my thanks for your recent decision to follow Learning from Dogs. Thank you!
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You’re welcome Paul.
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Excellent post, Gottfried! It seems to be nice is becoming a lost art. Being too nice can be considered insincere. Those that are sincerely too nice get taken advantage of. Finding balance is key! Thank you for following BrewNSpew.
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The pleasure is all mine. Lovely comment Eugenia. Hammer-nail-point driven home.
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I love that lead-in, “With all due respect,” which always precedes a statement indicating that the person in question deserves absolutely no respect whatsoever. Zilch.
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Haha you gotta be polite with it at first 😁😁😁
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Hahhahah!!! Here at my place, we start everything with “please don’t be offended” obviously in hindi though which goes like “maaf karna magar” 😜😜😜😜😜😜😜
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Haha good to see it’s universal
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Yes, you are not number two, since……. I am number one! You dare to take my place……
Good read, insightfull.
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Thanks 😅
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Aha!
You see that “don’t be offended line” has been causing problem.
It’s like saying “I’m about to offend you, prepare your heart.” But then, they’re giving you heads up which is really nice.
Nice write up Gottfried.
We’ll talk about the last two lines another day. 😂
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Haha yes ke
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❤️❤️❤️
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Yaaasss
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Love the ending – I laughed out loud. Gorgeous! 😃
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Haha thanks Wendy 😄
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False modesty is the worst.
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You’ve got a point
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The last phrase though…LMAO . Good read, passed a very strong message! Thanks for this.
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You’re welcome Prissy. ❤
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I don’t think i want to be nice again..
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lool
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Too nice isn’t nice at all
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Hehe
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Not sure about nice… It’s just one of those words that you can’t tell if it’s a good or bad thing. I think I’d rather be kind or friendly!
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Lovely take Jenny. Kind works just fine. 😄
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Too nice.😂😂!!
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😄😄😄
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To be honest
I’m neither nice nor nice. But you see that tea aspect, don’t try it with my mum
You’ll end up making one more
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Haha “more tea” is the mildest possible outcome
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Being too nice is really poisonous like it can just wreck u. Was once a victim. But this is actually interesting.
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Good point about the wreckage. Glad to see you came out unscathed?
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Nice writeup. Bantered wisdom… Keep it up bro
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Thanks Ezeh
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I know for a fact that i am neither both, it depends tho but my “not nice” side flow more than my nice side but at the end of it all it still depends on the circumstance. For the last part i know my mum will do all night vigil on my behalf, i can bet it hahaha
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Haha at “night vigil” 😁
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one can’t be too nice however, being too nice could be mistaken for weakness. In a cruel world like ours, we have to be nice and also know when to be nice.
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Yes oh.
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Nice write-up Ebuka
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Thanks Lydia
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Very weird but true. Nice piece. The last sentence though can be disastrous, you know. Being too nice can allow people play on your intelligence.
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Yeah this is true
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Nice piece… Being too nice is so common that you’ll be thinking such person can’t hurt you.
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Haha aww
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Don’t be offended= you’d get offended
With all due respect= I’m about to disrespect you
Kindly give a response asap= I know you’re not busy, just answer me quickly
Lol
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😁😁😁😁 accurate
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Crisp
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😁
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NICE post. 👍🏽👍🏽
I think I should try that on my Mom. Lemme just start packing my bags😁😁
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Haha you know the drill 😁
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Lolz,Me once I hear with all due respect sir, I get myself ready for some real bullshit.
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Haha it’s true
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With all due respect sir 🤣🤣🤣
I once did this to my boss and it almost earned me a query.
Nice one
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Haha please don’t do it again
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That was great! 😆
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Thanks 😁
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I like the way you pass out a message and still introduce banter.
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Thanks Olade. Appreciate ❤
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❤❤❤
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😄
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lol dat was very funny
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Thanks Anuli
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I think I whom this person is
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😁😁😁
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Okurrrr!!!. This has got to be my favorite piece its too relatable. I enjoyed reading it as usual.
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Lol you enjoyed it this much? Cool 😁
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Nice write up, making good use of it. Fell a victim of being too nice.
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Lol everyone has the same story. So who was the meany?
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Nice advice for the “mum part”. But dear, you are in deep shit. Just run for your life. Lol.
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😁😁😁😁
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Keep writing, never stop
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Thanks Marcie
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Nice write up, I will try to set the balance between being too nice and being nice, cos I usually find myself in the category of the former. 👏
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Haha such a nice lad
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lol Nice one lanister
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haha
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Loved this post. You’ve hit the nail on the head about “nice”ness. I know people who are so nice to me it makes me want to hit them. Yikes! Where did that come from? I hate phoney niceness. Those examples you gave about the people who won’t share when you’re in need and they have so much, are right on the mark. Who raised those people to be like that? I can’t lend you one of my two because I need a spare. Awful! But those people are out there.
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Haha “so nice it makes you want to hit them”. These people are all around us. We need to educate them that all they have was given to them.
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When it’s insincere, it’s an insult to be treated with this fake nice stuff. The person who does this to me most is not salvageable. She can’t help herself. She thinks it works and that she’s fooling everyone. Oh well, as long as I know what her game is, I can defend myself.
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Haha you’re fortified. Shame others can’t see through her bs.
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I think more people than she realizes have got her number now. Anyway, I enjoyed this post very much.
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Thanks for stopping by. Appreciate
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It’s my pleasure to read your excellent posts.
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❤
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Thanks for the laughs, and some useful advice.
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You’re welcome Jim
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Striking a balance is actually key.
Lovely piece
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Thanks Vivi ❤
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With all due respect sir, I think you’re one of the dumbest individuals I’ve come across in my twenty rainy seasons here on earth” the person is just been savagely nice😂😂
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😁😁😁
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you smell nice…………..
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😂😂😂
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Enjoyed reading this,I have my moments, I’m too nice and can be opposite when I start to feel people taking me for granted 😂
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Lol true. Gotta switch up immediately
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Okay, so this has to be my favorite piece!!!. It was worth my time as always.
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Lol finally you have a favorite
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Being too nice can be really draining at time.
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You’re right though
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When I was much younger, I was poised to please just about anybody I could see. I wanted to be “the nice guy” to everyone. I wanted to put a smile on the faces of anybody that came my way. But not anymore… Why? Because I have found out that you can’t please everybody at the same time. What do I do now… Just live my life, If I am touched to be nice to you, you are lucky, but if not… Take am like that.
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All straight facts 👹
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Still struggling with being too nice, even though I’m very unapproachable… The last bit about whispering in my mum’s ears killed me 😂😂😂..
Amazing piece as always!!
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Haha you’re “unapproachable” and somehow still nice? Wow
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I’m legit tired of being too nice. If I’m mean I really don’t like you 😢
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Aww. It gets better
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Nice one
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Haha clichè
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Mr nice guy😏😏
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Yessir
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Well-done Ebuka…..Nice write up, yea being nice makes you gullible in some decisive situations.
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Thanks Ruth. Words to note
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Very important piece to write on. I have learnt not to be too nice. And I would love to tell my dad, “watch your back papi”
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Lol hope you have another house though. Just saying
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Hahahahahahahhaaha! Absolutely
I can relate with a number of the scenarios. Good job Gottfried.
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Thanks Benos
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Thank God it’s a cup of *iced tea..
You end up in burns if you try this with a cup of *hot tea…
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Haha angle
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If you are nice, you will be hated by your standby haters. If you are mean, you will be hated by your standby haters. In other news you can’t avoid having haters no matter what.
So therefore, be yourself fully but let love and care for others be the underlying vibe in everything that you do. Like he’s rightly said #balance is the key!
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Top tier comment. Well done charity.
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Another Masterpiece
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Thanks BJ
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So the next time your mom shouts at you, serve her a cup of iced tea, smile, whisper in her ear…
watch your back
And walk away.
In an african home:
Mom: Is like you have found another house to live in abi
😂🤣🤣
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So true 😂😂😂😂😂
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Nice write up bro. But someone once said that on the average, Nigerians are aggressive people so you gotta persuade them first before making a request or statement, lol… And that last part, just when I thought you were going to end on a serious note, boom, my hand fell again😂😂
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Haha, I’m sorry for falling your hand AGAIN
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“With all due respect sir, I think you’re one of the dumbest individuals I’ve come across in my twenty rainy seasons here on earth” This is what they call a polite Insult…..😂😂😂😂😂
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hahaha
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I’m very nice too you know
But i won’t share my Meatpie even if you’re my bestie
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Remember what happened the last time he held a mic? 🤣🤣🤣
Nice piece Broski
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Haha plis don’t expose me
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Ah, wahala dey
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🤣 🤣 🤣
You sure know how to end a write up…
I’ll try not to get you to a microphone on my wedding day.
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haha I’ll do you justice
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Osheyyy! This piece is dope! And I can relate. Well done Ebuka!
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Thanks man
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So Gottfried, would you say you’re nice or not nice?
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I’m a shade of nice 😁
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Hahaha…
Mom, watch your back…
Son, is that a threat? Cause you’re gonna end up staring at yours while I moderate it. Get the hell outta here before I give you no back to watch…I’m no too nice mom…you can’t trample on me.
Or better still just take a walk of no return.
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Haha
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Especially when the favours are from your relatives.
“Adimchi take money from my pocket for your haircut so you stop looking like an unkept orangutan”
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😁😁😁😁
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Why do I feel like this is about me?
That’s how I tried being too nice to a friend, and here I am, in talks with the police to get him arrested.
Being too nice ends up hurting too much.
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Lool you crossed my mind tbh. We’re family!
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Lmao the last line
I get that I have to be wise about being nice lol
Nice piece
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Haha yup
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Momma watch your back !!!😈
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Haha, she dunno!
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Okay…the last sentence got me laughing.😂
I actually imagined myself doing that.
Crazy!
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Haha the poor woman wouldn’t be able to sleep
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😂😂😂 Enjoyed a lot reading it. Well you said the right fact.😉 Too nice is obviously not respectful And you explained it with your touch of humour. Enjoyed all the examples. and At the end 😉😁 Well done 👏 Good Tips Gottfried 😉
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Thanks Simon for stopping by and for this lovely comment. Appreciate it
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This is apt.
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😁
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