Dealing with Manipulation

I find it manipulative that our angry side is always seen as our “true colours” as if when we are happy and being kind we are fake. You could be the nicest most charming person ever, then the second you get mad it’s like you let go of the facade and start becoming the most disrespectful person ever. The way a person treats you when they’re angry is very telling of their character. Life is too short to let stupid people manipulate you.

Anger shouldn’t change the level of respect you have for someone. Getting angry isn’t the issue, it’s how you express your anger. Manipulative people will say you’re too sensitive when they’re really just assholes disrespecting you. Whining is a form of manipulation, people will give anything to make you shut up.

Some of you think you’ll make great partners because you don’t cheat but don’t realize you’re manipulative, inconsiderate, have poor communication skills, unappreciative and selfish. This is just as toxic as cheating. Manipulative people do not understand the concept of boundaries. Nothing is untouchable to them. Everything about a movie is manipulated.

When you know what a man wants, you know who he is, and how to move him. Manipulation is when they say “after all I’ve done for you” to guilt-trip you, control you and make you prove your worth. Women love that line. And it’s funny because they only bought you a pair of underwear. Half of the people lie with their lips, the other half with their tears.

Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words. Manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their disrespect. Belief can be manipulated, only knowledge is dangerous. The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play. Sweetheart, you can’t change him. His parents already tried and failed, who do you think you are?

Dear love, I’ve been doing this for a long time; manipulating people to get my way. That’s why you think you love me. Because I’ve broken you down and built you back up to believe it. It wasn’t an accident. Once you leave this behind you’ll see that. If they do it often, it isn’t a mistake; it’s just their behaviour.

I’m not a manipulator, I like to think of myself more as an outcome engineer. If you are an approval addict, your behaviour is as easy to control as that of any other junkie. All a manipulator needs to do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you crave, and then threaten to take it away. Every drug dealer in the world plays this game. Imagine after reading all of this, you still don’t leave me a comment.

Shame on you

Gottfried. All rights reserved

234 thoughts on “Dealing with Manipulation

          1. I try to anwser, but this thing don’t let me.
            I am not hiding ,my dear friend just busy. I am the one who visits you, in addition to commenting on your blog. If I don’t…
            I think you were hiding, LOL.
            Have a wonderful time!

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  1. I was really excited to read this as I was just thinking how often people use your anger or emotions against you saying you’re too sensitive or showing your “true colours” though I was disappointed this was aimed at women. As a woman, I have seen this manipulation in men as well. I also like how you pointed out that manipulation can be just as hurtful as cheating – a lot of people brag how they’ve never cheated or guilt you for dating multiple people when you’re not even officially a couple yet. Honestly, not being allowed to be myself in a relationship would hurt me more than if they cheated.

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  2. My favorite part “The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play. Sweetheart, you can’t change him. His parents already tried and failed, who do you think you are?”
    Sooooo true! 😅

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      1. Dang once in my life I hoped and wanted to change a guy somehow and then I asked if it’s gonna be worth it in the end and now lol I know this was one of my manipulation moments 😂

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        1. haha, again building people up isn’t manipulation, especially if you want the best for them.

          The challenge is people need to want the best for themselves. So all you can do is nudge, and pray.

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  3. “Dear love, I’ve been doing this for a long time; manipulating people to get my way. That’s why you think you love me. Because I’ve broken you down and built you back up to believe it. It wasn’t an accident. Once you leave this behind you’ll see that. If they do it often, it isn’t a mistake; it’s just their behaviour.”

    That’s a deadly game to play.

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          1. Now, there’s nothing funny about manipulating someone. Some people will move but if they are egotistic, they won’t move on when they realized they have been manipulated. 😦

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