I know the title is a bit misleading, this isn’t a post about Accountants. To be accoutable is to be able to count, meaning I should be able to count on you. Get it? The day our relationship ended was the day you lied about farting. There was no reason to deny that fart, it had your DNA encoded in it sweetheart. A custom fart if you will.
It’s adorable that you blame everyone but yourself. Children that aren’t taught accountability for their actions grow up to become adults that think nothing they do is wrong. It all began when parents stopped smacking their kids. A child living in fear of the possibility of getting the living daylight knocked out of them would not behave in an unruly manner. #Bring spanking back!
Most people will learn from their mistakes if they weren’t too busy denying their children. My pastor encouraged me embrace my mistakes and so the first thing I did when I got home was to hug my wife. It felt good, I highly recommend. Break out of the excuse culture. Late? Forgot? Didn’t complete? It’s your fault! Take responsibility for it all. Don’t outsource, it’s cheaper.
Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result. Now just because I apologize and take accountability does not mean I am blind to your wrongs and the role you played in the situation or other situations. No one ever wants to take accountability. Everyone just wants to shift blame. It stopped working years ago, wake up and smell the coffee.
You cannot grow if you can’t even admit your wrongdoings or at the very least take accountability and acknowledge the part YOU played in a situation. Some would rather block you and not talk again than admit their wrongdoings. A dangerous way to live. Admitting you’re wrong is not a sign of weakness. It’s a strength. Baffles me how most people can’t tolerate the same attitude they dish out to others.
Accountability is by far one of the most important qualities someone can have. When shit is going bad, ask yourself what contributions you made to get there and attempt to change that before getting at anyone else. It doesn’t help that you start beating yourself up. I mean if you’re going to sit there and feel sorry for yourself, it shouldn’t go on for more than thirty minutes.
Perfectionists with childhood trauma aren’t nearly as concerned with perfection as they are with not having a reason to be yelled at, hit, hurt, or dismissed. Perfection is a layer of protection. They often don’t know they deserve to be safe and their abusers deserve accountability. One day, all the people that have brought us to where we are will answer for their crimes.
Starting with Eve
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